Embracing kindness: Why it matters and how to cultivate it

Embracing kindness: Why it matters and how to cultivate it

As we approach World Kindness Day later this month, it’s a perfect time to think about why kindness matters and what are the benefits.

For me the benefits are rooted in the fact that by giving we receive. Research has found that those who are kind and compassionate generally experience greater happiness. Not only this, they can also experience reduced stress and emotional wellbeing.

The mental health foundation defines kindness as “choosing to do something that helps others or yourself, motivated by genuine warm feelings. “

In practice I see many busy working women, I find they are often great at being kind to others supporting children, partners, parents, neighbours but this leaves no time for themselves. It’s no wonder many of them are struggling with anxiety, overwhelm and exhaustion.

Being kind to ourselves is the foundation - many of you may have heard the quote “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. I did that for years until I realised the cup was so empty it was about to crack.

So here are my 3 top tips to stop pouring from an empty cup:

1, Make a habit of finding some time for yourself and stick to it

This could be a morning meditation or yoga practice, a walk round the block with no distractions, what you find can help you relax and focus on yourself.

2, Find a new hobby that’s just for you

This could be learning a new skill, an exercise class or joining a book club, the key point is that you’re doing it for you and nobody else.

3, Find something you love, that makes you feel good and prioritise it

This could be a spa day or simply curling up with a good book. Treating yourself with kindness and self care reminds you that you need to be nurtured too.

Daily motivation is practically impossible but creating a regular habit and sticking to it is a great way to make changes. I started with a 5 minute morning practice which is now 45 minutes, my oasis of calm that sets me in the right frame of mind for the day ahead. Leaving me ready to be kind to others as well.